Light it up Blue

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#Liub

Today I have My first guest writer. I am so excited. Please help me in welcoming Lauren from Life Out Of the Nest. As she shares with us about her sister, who has autism. This article was written in honor of Light Up Blue for Autism. Which is April 2. 

“She’s My Sister”
My sister is two years younger than me, 2 years in age, but the difference
mentally and physically? Well that ranges anywhere from 5 years to 15 years
difference. My sister has autism and growing up it was a childhood that was
different from the mainstream, but something I definitely don’t regret.
I grew up not knowing anything different, I figured most of my friends had
siblings who threw tantrums if something went wrong, or played in the sensory
room at therapy. I saw it as something normal, and it was only later when I
discovered what autism was, and found that my sister was “different”. And as I
matured, I took on new roles with my sister. No longer was I just the sibling
anymore, I was a 3rd caretaker, a back up for my parents. I told people I had been
changing diapers since I was 10 and its true, I know all of the foods she can’t have,
the best way to calm her down, how to get her to go to sleep, and I specialize in her
language.
For as long as I can remember I was taking care of my sister, and this blurred
the lines between parent and sibling for me, so much so, that I felt I was responsible
for her wellbeing sometimes, felt that I needed to drop what I was doing to help her.
So many people tell me “Oh what a wonderful sister you are, taking care of her”,
“Your sister has autism? How does that work for you?” “Is it a lot of work?” And I
would simply respond she’s my sister, she’s my family. I mean, what other answer
could I possibly give? Sure it was hard sometimes, and yes it made me grow up
quickly, and yes my childhood was very different from those with “normal” siblings,
but I don’t regret it, not one bit!
From early on I knew people saw only what my sister couldn’t do: she
couldn’t walk until she was near 2 years old, she can’t talk at the level expected for a
17 year old, and her body lags developmentally behind those of her age. But while I
saw these “disabilities”, I saw her strengths too. I saw her ability to make anyone
smile, her great empathy towards others (a trait most with autism lack), her
excitement at the littlest of things, and her appreciation and love for people and
everyday interactions. She has the biggest heart I know and whenever someone asks
me who my hero is, I immediately respond with my sister. To some it may seem like
an interesting answer, but I think, “who wouldn’t want to be happy at the littlest
things in life, who wouldn’t want to inspire joy in others and feel love so deep for
others that you cry whenever they do?” Who wouldn’t want that?
So while some may say that autism is a disability, I would like to say it’s a
lens. A lens that takes away some parts of the picture or hides them shadow, but
brightens other parts of the picture. You just have to look hard enough to find the
beauty in all of it.

A-Z challenge

I was just introduced to the idea of The A-Z writing challenge by Meaning Joy Purpose. I am excited about the idea of this because, I believe it will strike some fires in my mind to my fingertips. I am hoping this challenge allows me to better my writing, and my blog all together. So come on join in. Lets challenge ourselves for 26 days of the month ( Sunday’s off). Some of the letters could be crazy, so hope you enjoy walking through the alphabet with me.
This will start on April First
If you join don’t forget to put link in comments so I can follow your alphabet challenge as well.

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#Girl Crush

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It was brought to my attention that there is controversy surrounding Little Big Towns new single Girl Crush.
First of all Whoever has a problem with this song #1 is probably an idiot and #2 Why do people have a problem with this song and not rappers  degrading women? (Think about it!) And last but most importantly, listen to the words. The lyric says specifically “I want to kiss her lips because they taste like you. I Want to drown myself in a bottle of her perfume. I want her long blonde hair. Ya cuz maybe then you woukd Want me more.”  The song is clearly about being jealous of someone else having a man she wants. Besides this though Why do we have to find debate in every single aspect of things.

Here is the YouTube link to the song. If you haven’t heard it. It is a Great song.
http:// Little Big Town – Girl Crush (Lyric Video)
Here is the behind the song video as well.

73 question challenge challenge

I saw this on a new blog I discovered called,  mama scribbles blog . Turns out many celebrities have been doing this for a bit now. So, I decided since I was getting baxk into blogging an mine is fairly new that this would be a great post idea for me.

1. What’s your favourite movie?
Sweet Home Alabama…I love Reese Witherapoon

2. Favourite movie in the past five years?
Just Go with it

3. Favourite Hitchcock film?
Not a fan: (

4. A book you plan on reading? 
Joanne Fluke. BlackBerry pie Murder

5. A book that you read in school that positively shaped you?
A day no pigs would fly by Robert Peck

6. Favourite TV show that’s currently on?
Tv addiction makes this hard but 19 kids and counting is currently on my Tv 

7. On a scale of one to ten how excited are you about life right now?
Nine

8. iPhone or Android?
Android

9. Twitter or Instagram?
Twitter 

10. Who should EVERYONE be following right now?
Mom central: twitter parties: ) @MomCentral

11. What’s your favourite food?
Soft pretzels and cheese (concessions stand has the best)

12. Least favourite food?
Vegetables…I’m kind of a lucky eater

13. What do you love on your pizza?
Ham, sausage and extra cheese

14. Favourite drink?
Dr pepper

15. Favorite dessert?
Red Velvet Cake

16. Dark chocolate or milk chocolate?
Milk

17. Coffee or tea?
Depends on the mood I like coffee, hot and cold but, I am from Texas So sweet tea is also a fav

18. What’s the hardest part about being a mom? Seeing  little smiles and hearing them laugh. Nothing lije those little giggles

19. What’s your favourite band?
Lady Antebellum.    Got to see them in concert couple years ago: )

20. Favourite solo artist?
Reba McEntire

21. Favorite song?
Fancy by Reba

22. If you could sing a duet with anyone, who would it be?
Reba.  It’s on my wish list

23. If you could master one instrument, what would it be?
The Piano

24. If you had a tattoo, where would it be?
Don’t have any but probably on my foot so when I wore sandals I could show off

25. To be or not to be?
To be 

26. Dogs or cats?
Dogs. Our buster boy passed away in Nov, and the thought of getting a new dog is tough

27. Bird-watching or whale-watching?
Bird watching, love watching robin’s

28. Best gift you’ve ever received?
My kids

29. Best gift you’ve ever given?
My kids

30. Last gift you gave a friend?
A sweet tea on a stressful day,  if your not fron Texas you won’t understand

31. What’s your favourite board game?
Monopoly

32. What’s your favorite country to visit?  Canada because only other one I have been too

33. What’s the last country you visited?
Canada

34. What country do you wish to visit?
Lots on my bucket list, top being Europe

35. What’s your favourite colour?
Love pink fav is bright pink

36. Least favorite colour?
Baby poop yellow lol

37. Diamonds or pearls?
Diamonds

38. Heels or flats?
Flats…I have rubbish feet 

39. Pilates or yoga?
Pilates

40. Jogging or swimming?
Jogging

41. Best way to de-stress?
Bubble bath, and wine

42. If you had one superpower, what would it be?
To fly

43. What’s the weirdest word in the English language?
Weird  

44. What’s your favourite flower?
Lilly

45. When was the last time you cried?
When we lost our buster boy

46. Do you like your handwriting?
I really dislike it 

47. Do you bake?
I do, but I am not great

48. What is your least favourite thing about yourself?
My confidence fluctuations

49. What is your most favourite thing about yourself?
My legs 🙂 or My laugh

50. Who do you miss most?
My buster boy (yes a dog lol)
I also miss Jesse’s parents. You complain about your in laws and all the silly antics. However, when they are done I promise you will miss it.

51. What are you listening to right now?
Oldest talking to the baby

52. Favourite smell?
Lavender

53. Who was the last person you talked to on the phone?
My other half

54. Who was the last person you sent a text to?
My friend Jennifer

55. A sport you wish you could play?
Basketball, miss those days

56. Hair color?
Brown, naturally although. Right now its red

57. Eye color?
Blue

58. Scary film or happy endings?
Scary makes me have nightmares so definitely happy endings

59. Favorite season?
Spring 

60. Three people alive or dead that you would like to have dinner with?
Aunt Karen, Jesse’s grandpa and my maternal gma

61. Hugs or kisses?
Hugs

62. Rolling Stones or the Beatles?
Hmmm neither because they are not my generation but if I had to pick I would say Beatles

63. Where were you born?
Texas, born and raised: )

64. What is the farthest you have been from home?
Canada. Summer trip with family

65. Sweet or savory?
Sweet 

66. Lipstick or lip gloss?
Gloss 

67. What book have you read again and again?
The books in the mckade brothers trilogy by Nora Roberts

68. Favorite bedtime story? Three little bears

69. What would be the title of your autobiography?
My Name Is Mama

70. Favourite sound?
Kids laughing

71. Favorite animal?
Dog, or horse

72. Who is your girl crush?
Reese Witherspoon

73. Last photograph you took? Care bear playing

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Teen Mom

You are probably thinking I am going to talk about the Mtv show Teen Mom., because of the title.  Well it is running a marathon today, as I am writing this, because premiere is tonight. That is what prompted this writing. Yes! I will watch premiere as I am an avid fan.  However, the answer is No. today is a little more personalized. I am talking about Me. I became a Mom at 17. Hold the shocking gasps please.  It was scary, and exciting. I always wanted children, wanted to be called mommy.  Of course, I knew nothing however, of being someone’s mom. I remember leaving the hospital and the shock hitting me. I didn’t doubt that I could care for my new bundle of joy. I knew how to make a bottle and change a diaper.  However, a big feeling of fear came over me. Fear of failure. I feared that I was not going to be able to guide my little man in life. I feared he would hate me for having him young and not being good enough. Whatever, “good enough”  meant. This was not like when I was five tending to my baby dolls. This was no fantasy. There were no cameras following me. Life certainly was REAL, and it was hard. It has now been ten years and three babies later. That fear still creeps in my mind often. Especially when it comes to parenting my little man. He struggles with adhd and more than challenges us. I have learned lots from our oldest guy. Needless to say  being a teen mother taught me more than I can write about.  I am not proud of being a young Mom, I am however proud of overcoming challenges and not letting life defeat me. In writing this today I do not want to glorify being a young mother. If you are a teen, please put your future in check. Live out your dreams, be successful in whatever your heart desires. Most of all go and live life. If your a fellow teen mom, share your story, share what you learned from your little one. If your an older mom, know that at any age we all have fears, know that you certainly are not alone.

“Fabulously Ordinary”

I recently listened to power of moms ep 39 with tiffany sowbe and it inspired this post. I have often thought of writing a book called “Not Just a Mom“. Some reasons are because I m so much more than a mom, and another is being a stay at home mom gets overlooked.            Tiffany Sowbe wrote a book called Realized Motherhood. In this book her chapter is entitled Fabulously Ordinary. I have not read the book. However, I would certainly love to. I did listen to the afore mentioned podcast and here is what I took away.
    I was reassured first and for most, I am not alone. Every mother feels ordinary at times. Little things go unappreciated, and overlooked. By the kids, our spouse’s, and extended family. This isn’t always easy. It is often tough to think what you do doesn’t matter. Today though I am embracing the fact I am fabulously ordinary. Whatevwr, I do wether cleaning our humble abode, making a delicious dinner or bathing dirty kids matters. Things we do as moms are just ordinary and often get monotonous. If it was gone would you miss it? Heck ya! I would be lost. I have been an ordinary mother for almost eleven years. So embracing the ordinary day to day things and being fabulous at it, is exactly what I took away from Tiffany’s chapter.
A few Ways I am fabulously ordinary and I bet you are too.
* Healing sick kiddies
Somehow I always find a way to get an ill child to take his meds
Somehow a little extra mommy tlc always heals a fever or tummy ache

* Feeding the hungry
While I am not the only cook in our home I do make meals most of the time. I am also not the best cook but if you request a meal it will magically appear soon.
A peanut butter sandwich taste Vetter when made by mom
A nighttime snack usually gets mommy approved

*Being the dedicated reader
I am the one children cine to most when wanting to share in a story. My children know reading is a passion I have.

Well, I must carry on being fabulous while being ordinary at the same time. Have a fabulous day.

Here’s is Tiffany’s YouTube video about this chapter too.

Tiffany Sowby: https://youtu.be/rL_ec11KWBE

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10 Best Sports for ADHD Kids: Resources and Recommendations

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I recently read this article, best sports for kids with adhd and was shocked not to find football on the list. I am not sure if the shock came from me being a Texas Football fanatic, or the the fact that football has been the best thing for my boy. He is now ten but was diagnosed at the young age of four. He is about to begin his fifth season of football as well. Signing him up for football has done so much for him. Not only does he have a love for the game. He has a passion. A passion to compete, to work hard and for his brotherhood of players.
More ways football has been helpful are

***He gets to use his pent up energy in a positive way.
*** He has to use his brain. Lots to remember, plays, head down, positions and more
***Respect: of course a ten year old struggles to always respect everyone but he has to learn to respect his coaches (authority) & his peers
***Compassion: when a player gets hurt on our team or not the players have to deal and clap when the player stands and is ok.
***Team work: This one is obvious
***  how to work hard. Practices often are three and four times a week.
These are just a few ways football can benefit your adhd child. Any child really. So go find them a team and start enjoying the season

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Happy Spring

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      Yesterday we had a soft rain and last night we had lightening and thunder. Now for most this would not seem like a big deal. However, we have had drought problems here in Texas. So any precipitation is celebrated.
    The kids have been asking me if it was spring yet. We  have seen glimpses of it. Baby birds, flowers ( mostly little weeds  ) and some warmer weather.Well, today Spring has Sprung. 🙂

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I hope the weather is nice where you are and you can enjoy this beautiful spring day.

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